Note: It has been a solid month since I last wrote a blog entry. We endured 8 days with no power after hurricane Sandy, then another week with no phone or Internet. The disconnection and subsequent mad rush to catch up on lost work forced me to put many of my writing efforts on hold. I hope that this will be the start of more frequent offerings.
If you are one of the lucky ones who quickly regained or never lost their power during Hurricane Sandy, good for you. We endured 8 consecutive days with no electricity, easily making it the longest blackout of my lifetime. As tempting as it was to complain, the knowledge of more catastrophic loss in nearby communities, not just of property but of lives, made me bite my tongue. Our family made the best of it, and as much as it was a teachable week for our 4 children, I have gotten some new insights as well.
For one thing, I now know more about candles than I ever knew as a boy scout. Take it from me, the long skinny ones give the best light. The fat candles may last longer, but once the flame sinks into the middle, forget it.
Gas fueled utilities are flat out superior. Crazy as it sounds, we never lost use of the kitchen stove or even hot water because our stove and hot water heater did not have electric pilot lights. I found out the hot water thing quite by accident; most people never run their water long enough to know it, or mistakenly assume that hot water is just some fortunate leftover that will run out and must be rationed. Not true. A gas fired mechanical hot water heater will allow you to have hot showers a week into a blackout. Drying off is chillier, but few things are as miserable as a cold shower.
That said, the simpler life dumbed me down terribly. Focusing so much energy on compensating for lack of creature comforts and enduring more knocked me down a notch or two on Maslowe’s Hierarchy. I found myself less on the ball, less decisive, and almost behind in regular conversation. It is just tough to be on my mental A-game when so many distractions, incoveniences, and unfamiliar efforts weigh me down.
I am not too dull to notice how adversity seems to bring out extremes in behavior. I observed both the best and worst in people when I saw neighbors helping each other and strangers get into shouting matches on gas station lines. Society is a fragile ecosystem. Take away a few components and some of us are primitive and barbaric. And a few of us ought not patronize self serve gas stations either (it isn’t rocket science!!).
Perhaps most of all, I’ll never take some basics for granted. Running water is a blessing. A hot cup of anything means more when you boil it in a kettle. A recharged mobile phone and a half tank of gas can make you feel invincible. And if you want to talk style, the new suburban status symbol isn’t a sports car in the garage- it is a generator.

















On Open House Thefts: What Can a Real Estate Agent Do?
Last week I read in Agent Genius about a homeowner that was suing their real estate broker after the theft of $162,000 worth of jewelry from their home during an open house. The homeowners claim that they are entitled to damages because the crime basically occurred on the agent’s watch, and that the agent was negligent in not preventing the property from being stolen. This hits close to home for me, because a few years ago I hosted an open house where a theft occurred.
No one should ever have to endure this sort of loss, especially jewelry, which can have meaning that transcends appraised value. That said, I have a question for those debating what role the agent could or should have played in foiling the crime:
What should the agent do once they catch the crime in progress?
We are there to sell the home, so being in “prevent crime” mode strikes me as being rather antithetical to making a deal happen. You can’t exactly sell someone while at the same time being suspicious. Have you ever walked into a retail store and been “watched” by a suspicious shop keeper? It doesn’t exactly make you want to stay very long and buy something. That, coupled with the fact that the odds of a theft occurring in a properly prepared house being remote, mean that all we can do is catch thieves in the act.
Then what?
Tackle them?
Citizen’s arrest?
Subdue them somehow?
Chase them off?
In my own situation, it was two people who stole from a number of open houses in the area, and they were traced to another state. My client’s belongings were never recovered, and I don’t think the two were ever prosecuted. They signed in with fake names and numbers, and worked fast. One asked me some questions while the other cleaned out jewelry in under 2 minutes that was not under lock and key. I don’t know what would have happened if I somehow caught them in the act of committing the crime, and frankly I don’t want to know. People who stumble onto active crime scenes seldom tell happy tales.
Having already been attacked once in a house years ago as a new agent, I have to say as a husband and father of 4 children whom I REALLY want to see grow up, it is not my responsibility to take one in the gut for someone’s unsecured jewelry. It just isn’t. We take enough risk being alone with strangers in our efforts to sell your home.
I am no lawyer and have no interest in discussing the legal nuances or theory. I just value the pragmatic and my well-being. I find it ironic that if the agent slipped down the seller’s stairs that the seller would be liable, yet the agent is somehow supposed to possibly risk their life with a criminal for …things.
If you are selling your home, lock up your jewelry. Install a nanny cam if you want. But don’t add “crime prevention” to your agent’s job. We can’t prevent crime, we certainly cannot stop it, and we shouldn’t be responsible for valuables that should have been locked away. Lock away your valuables. Everything-and everyone- is safer that way.